The Buddhist Way of Life for Householders

The Buddha considered economic welfare as a requisite for human comfort, but moral and spiritual development for a happy, peaceful and contented life.

A man named Dighajanu once visited the Buddha and said, ‘Venerable Sir, we are ordinary laymen, leading a family life with wife and children. Would the Blessed One teach us some doctrines which will be conducive to our happiness in this world and hereafter?’

The Buddha told him that there are four things which are conducive to a human’s happiness in this world. (1) he should be skilled, efficient, earnest, and energetic in whatever profession he is engaged, and he should know it well; (2) he should protect his income, which he has thus earned righteously, with the sweat of his brow; (3) he should have good friends who are faithful, learned, virtuous, liberal and intelligent, who will help him along the right path away from evil; (4) he should spend reasonably, in proportion to his income, neither too much nor too little, i.e., he should not hoard wealth avariciously nor should he be extravagant—in other words he should live within his means.

Then the Buddha expounds the four virtues conducive to a layperson’s happiness hereafter: (1) he should have faith and confidence in moral, spiritual and intellectual values; (2) he should abstain from destroying and harming life, from stealing and cheating, from adultery, from falsehood, and from intoxicating drinks; (3) he should practice charity, generosity, without attachment and craving for his wealth; (4) he should develop wisdom which leads to the complete destruction of suffering, to the realization of Nirvana.

Many people think that to be a good Buddhist one must have absolutely nothing to do with the materialistic life. This is not correct. What the Buddha teaches is that while we can enjoy material comforts without going to extremes, we must also conscientiously develop the spiritual aspects of our lives. While we can enjoy sensual pleasures as lay people, we should never be unduly attached to them to the extent that they hinder our spiritual progress.